Never ‘unloved’, but sometimes ‘unloving’?
12/11/2025
Have you ever really thought about the depth of God’s mercy and grace toward you?
Sometimes, as Christ followers, we become lax – we lose perspective – we become acutely
gifted at seeing the ‘spec’ in other’s eyes while, at the same time, navigating the ‘plank’ that’s
sticking out of our own. I suspect this is why our Lord (and his apostles) spoke so often in
scripture on the topics of love and forgiveness. We all want it. We all appreciate it when
offered to us, but we seem to forget, at times, that it’s equally important to extend that same
love and forgiveness to others who have performed below our desired level of expectation.
I took my first senior pastorate in Spokane Washington in 1997. Tammy and I were
living temporarily with some friends from Northview Bible Church on a beautiful
mountainside home in eastern Spokane called ‘Green Bluff’. I would often take long walks
through the orchards surrounding their property to pray, think, and listen to spiritually
uplifting music. There was a popular Christian song on the radio at the time by artist
Michael W. Smith that caught my attention. I remember hearing this song and fighting back
tears because of how true many of the words were of me. Consider the lyrics to this special
song below:
Never been unloved (Michael W. Smith)
(Verse 1)
I have been unfaithful, I have been unworthy; I have been unrighteous, And I have been unmerciful.
I have been unreachable, I have been unteachable, I have been unwilling, And I've been undesirable.
(Chorus 1)
Sometimes I have been unwise, I've been undone by what I'm unsure of;
But because of You, and all that You went through, I know that I have never been unloved .
(Verse 2)
I have been unbroken, I have been untended; I have been uneasy , and I've been unapproachable.
I've been unemotional, I've been unexceptional; I've been undecided, and I have been unqualified.
(Chorus 2)
Unaware, I have been unfair, I've been unfit for blessings from above;
But even I can see the sacrifice You made for me; to show that I have never been unloved.
Still today, after nearly thirty years, I get a bit choked up reading those words. I’ve
been all those things and more at various points of my Christian life. I still can highlight
several items in the above lyrics that are true of me right now. What’s the point, Pastor? I’m
often today still unworthy – unbroken – unrighteous – unexceptional – all these years later.
However, then and now, I’ve never been unloved.
In John 13:34, Jesus said the following: “As I have loved you, so you must love one
another .” Do you know someone this morning whose actions toward you or others seem
unworthy – unbroken – unrighteous – unexceptional? If so, what should you do? Love
them, as Christ loved/loves you. Come alongside them and express your desire to walk
through their trial with them. What results when Christians treat other Christians this way?
Jesus answers that in the next verse, John 13:35: “By this (our merciful love for one another)
will all men know that you are my disciples when you have LOVE one for another .”